“Ladies and gentlemen! The score is 2-2! It’s the climax of the final point. Everybody!
“And now, making his entrance, it’s the football superstar of the century… Chris Prince!! COMING SOON!!
“At the very end… for the sake of winning the team!? He’s offering to coach them himself…
“For the team? Coaching? Nonsense! In this 2-2 scenario, the one who scores the last point becomes the hero… I’ll score the goal to stand out!!
“Nice goal, Seishiro. By the way, Leo… Have you given up on your dream of becoming the best in the world alone, as you told me? Isn’t Blue Lock the place to create the world’s best striker?
“It doesn’t matter. My dream was to win the World Cup from the start. If Nagi becomes the world’s best striker, I wouldn’t mind being his right hand. I decided that earlier. For the sake of my dream, I’ll use Blue Lock as a stepping stone.”
“Is that your new ideal?”
“No, it’s ego.”
Words of Chris Prince from ‘Blue Lock’ and conversation between Chris and Reo.
True “self-esteem” is different from the feeling of “self-efficacy” that you can do something or the feeling of being useful to someone.
Having high “self-esteem” means accepting and loving yourself unconditionally as you are.
A baby zebra can stand on its own feet and run on its own within an hour of being born.
On the other hand, a human baby cannot do anything on its own except breathe when it’s born.
Portman called babies born in such a helpless state or childbirth “physiological prematurity.”
“Self-esteem” is the love that parents and grandparents unconditionally hold for a baby who can’t do anything.
It includes not only the good aspects of oneself but also the bad ones.
It includes everything, not just when things are going well, but also when you fail at work, say something terrible, or feel down.
It may not be familiar to Japanese people, but accepting and loving all aspects of oneself, including the past, is what “self-esteem” is.
Thinking like this, perhaps babies are born completely helpless to teach us adults what unconditional love is like.
Just being born safely, loving and rejoicing in existence unconditionally…
As children grow older, adults tend to forget to love unconditionally.
If they study, they’re loved, but if they don’t, they’re not loved…
If they listen to adults, they’re loved, but if they don’t listen to adults, they’re not loved…
They start judging children by applying various societal and adult rules.
Equating “self-esteem” with “self-efficacy” and “self-usefulness” will break your own heart.
Self-efficacy: Feeling that you can do something
Self-usefulness: Feeling that you are useful to someone
Babies functionally don’t help anyone.
Not only are they not useful, but they rely 100% on someone else for feeding, excretion, and changing.
It’s difficult for a baby who can’t do anything on its own to have “self-efficacy” or “self-usefulness.”
…Getting sick and losing self-esteem because you can’t work…
This mixes up “self-efficacy” and “self-esteem,” the feeling that you can work and the feeling that you’re worth something.
There’s nothing wrong with being able to work.
However, even if you can’t work temporarily due to illness, your value as a person doesn’t change at all.
Still, you have value, and being able to love yourself is “self-esteem.”
…Making customers happy and boosting self-esteem…
This mixes up “self-usefulness” and “self-esteem,” the feeling of being useful to customers and the feeling of self-esteem.
Efforts to make customers happy are natural.
However, whether customers are happy or not depends on them, not on you.
Accepting and loving yourself for making efforts to make customers happy, whether they are happy or not, is “self-esteem.”
I quit my job. I distanced myself from my family. I got sick.
At that time, it’s very painful and self-esteem also shakes.
The reason is that “self-efficacy” and “self-usefulness” disappear at that moment.
However, I believe that young people should experience such “accidents.”
I think that you can’t truly gain “self-esteem” without losing “self-efficacy” and “self-usefulness” once.
And by gaining true “self-esteem” and moving forward, the interpretation of the “accident” that was considered the worst at that time has changed.
Jinbei, lost things – from ichama on X: Jinbei One Piece Don’t just count what you’ve lost There is nothing missing What is still left for you to do X
Self-efficacy and self-usefulness are very important.
However, it is very dangerous to try to expand only “self-efficacy” and “self-usefulness” without establishing “self-esteem.”
I’ll continue this later.”