The fact that you’ve lost before will one day become a great asset.


So, how did it go?”

“Win the Grand Prix and become a pro!”

…As I recalled Kiyoi’s words, a cold sweat trickled down my back. It wasn’t just bias; Seiki was gaining popularity rapidly. Next season’s drama starring Anna was bound to be a hit, and Seiki might skyrocket to fame. Meanwhile, I couldn’t even make it past the preliminary round, let alone win the Grand Prix…

“Oh, it didn’t work out, huh.”

…They must have sensed it from my downcast silence and nodded resignedly. Disappointment. Disapproval. Being fed up. To a trembling Hirayoshi, Seiki simply said…

“It’s okay. Just try again next time.”

…As I slowly lifted my head, I met Seiki’s unwavering gaze…

“You’re not mad?”

“Why would I be mad?”

“I let Seiki down. You told me to win the Grand Prix and become a pro.”

“Who said you had to win on your first try?”

“Well… you didn’t say that, but…”

“Besides, who do you think you are, not wanting to fail even once? A god?”

…I shook my head in disbelief. Even gods make mistakes. Like the colossal blunder of pairing myself and Kiyoi…

“Then switch gears and go for the next one. I didn’t even place in my first contest, and I still haven’t achieved everything I want.”

This is a passage from ‘Beautiful Him.’



“Having lost before will one day become a great asset.”

What do you think is the most essential power in life?

Courage? Love? Effort?

I believe it’s the power to bounce back from failure.

This is a message I particularly want to convey to children and their parents.

In life, things rarely go smoothly. Everyone experiences failure, betrayal, and adversity.

However, Japan’s “brainwashing education” not only promotes the idea that finding the right answer equals being an excellent child, but also tends to favor students who are obedient and cooperative, thus hindering the development of talented children who think outside the box.

This is my theory, but I believe that “education” means allowing children to fail.

And what parents and teachers can do is instill in children the worldview that “failure” is something to be proud of, as it is evidence of having tried, and demonstrate through their own actions that they too have faced various challenges and experienced “failure.”

Have you ever heard the word “resilience”?

“Resilience” refers to the ability to bounce back from difficult situations.

In the world of psychology, it is believed that people are born with “resilience.”

Let’s consider walking, for example.

Many of us walk without much thought, as if it were natural.

However, until around the age of one, we couldn’t walk.

We tried to stand up from crawling, and then we tried to walk.

Of course, it didn’t go smoothly, and we fell over and over again.

We cried loudly each time, but without giving up on walking, by continuing to challenge ourselves over and over again, we eventually learned to walk.

The primary cause of conditions such as “autism spectrum disorder (ASD),” “depression,” and “schizophrenia” is “genetics.”

And “genetics” also plays a significant role in the ability of “resilience.”

However, “resilience” can be nurtured through experience and knowledge.

And parents are the ones who can nurture their children’s “resilience.”

By showing children that “failure” is evidence of having tried and by demonstrating to them how parents themselves have faced various challenges and bounced back from “failure,” children will acquire the worldview that “failure” is evidence of having tried, and by witnessing how parents bounce back from “failure,” children themselves will be able to challenge various things like their parents.

This applies not only to major events such as changing jobs, starting a business or side business, and taking qualification exams but also to smaller things.

For example, when parents are emotionally strained, they may become irritable or complain.

Some people choose not to show their negative feelings to their children at such times, but I believe it is better to communicate to children that parents are emotionally strained.

By showing how parents deal with their own negative feelings, children will develop the ability to overcome their own negative feelings.

Therefore, parents should show their children how they honestly convey their feelings, how they focus on things they can control, and how they show compassion to themselves rather than aiming for perfection.

By showing these behaviors to their children, parents can help nurture their children’s “resilience.”

Furthermore, by parenting with this attitude, you can reap the fruits.

That is the fruit of being able to live your own life.

When a child is born, they often become known as “○○’s mom,” and often become a person who exists only for the sake of the child.

Of course, if you feel joy in this, I won’t deny it, but even if a child is born, you should have your own life.

Not just as “○○’s mom,” but also as “○○” yourself, you should have the choice to live.

Parenting and work that extends to “brainwashing education” are not the only things.

By showing children how to challenge various things and experience “failure,” you can also reclaim your own life.

Now, let’s fail again today.